Truly. All of the online criticism poised as “concern” is not helpful for anyone struggling with ED or any other illness. I genuinely hope she is able to get the care she needs after her tour and the media/public will allow her the space to heal.
As someone who has never experienced an ED or any notoriety, I will not pretend to understand what she is living through. I will say that as a human (mother) who is empathetic and nurturing by nature, I do look at her with concern. But what I don't do is post it all over the internet (yes, I understand this is technically the internet, so please don't @ me).
I was speaking with my husband about this topic just last night and expressed to him, in private, how concerned I am for her well-being and that I hope she receives the help that she needs. But yes, she is screaming at people to leave her alone because all the manufactured internet rage disguised as concern is, in fact, not helping. I am glad that she is going to take a break from the "public eye" when her tour is finished (not sure what she is going to do for the press tour for Fockers-in-Law in the fall). I truly hope she finds whatever peace looks like for her, and I hope that people finally start listening so she isn't screaming into the void. Unfortunately, humans do not have the best track record of learning from past mistakes...
I really enjoyed the message in this video, even though her music isn’t my jam. I agree with you completely. I love when you wrote how people want “other people to agree with them, to belong to a majority that is in the right.” Word.
The only commentary directly about Ariana I would condone is if parents were trying to figure out how to talk to their young daughters about this, if their daughters were specifically emulating her. But that is nowhere in the discourse.
I had no real thoughts on last year’s Sabrina Carpenter album rollout except that when Chappell is dressing like a blowup doll on Drag Race and Taylor is dressing like a 1920s Atlantic Cuty quasi-stripper, dressing like a ‘60s pinup and singing about anal is squarely in the mainstream; you’re not satirizing anything when we’ve now seen the twist more than it’s played straight. But. Online clowns can’t opine about what happened to Britney while shouting down those of us who were uncomfortable with Sabrina’s SNL performance. She pranced around in her underwear with a hairbrush microphone in a teen-style bedroom. She sang to the dolls on her vanity. I doubt it was a direct reference to Britney’s Rolling Stone photo spread, but they both play on the same perverse idea. And I wasn’t allowed to push back on the insidious nature of that imagery and how it destroys performers like Britney. No no, it’s empowering to give men what they want and pretend it’s our idea! The internet is fucked. They can’t connect their own dots.
But this is all based on the idea that everyone can and should make public pronouncements to a presumed audience. When people talk about Ariana to people who already agree with them, it’s just making people think they can criticize women if they’re careful about their phrasing.
Truly. All of the online criticism poised as “concern” is not helpful for anyone struggling with ED or any other illness. I genuinely hope she is able to get the care she needs after her tour and the media/public will allow her the space to heal.
Exfuckingzactly.
As someone who has never experienced an ED or any notoriety, I will not pretend to understand what she is living through. I will say that as a human (mother) who is empathetic and nurturing by nature, I do look at her with concern. But what I don't do is post it all over the internet (yes, I understand this is technically the internet, so please don't @ me).
I was speaking with my husband about this topic just last night and expressed to him, in private, how concerned I am for her well-being and that I hope she receives the help that she needs. But yes, she is screaming at people to leave her alone because all the manufactured internet rage disguised as concern is, in fact, not helping. I am glad that she is going to take a break from the "public eye" when her tour is finished (not sure what she is going to do for the press tour for Fockers-in-Law in the fall). I truly hope she finds whatever peace looks like for her, and I hope that people finally start listening so she isn't screaming into the void. Unfortunately, humans do not have the best track record of learning from past mistakes...
I really enjoyed the message in this video, even though her music isn’t my jam. I agree with you completely. I love when you wrote how people want “other people to agree with them, to belong to a majority that is in the right.” Word.
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The only commentary directly about Ariana I would condone is if parents were trying to figure out how to talk to their young daughters about this, if their daughters were specifically emulating her. But that is nowhere in the discourse.
I had no real thoughts on last year’s Sabrina Carpenter album rollout except that when Chappell is dressing like a blowup doll on Drag Race and Taylor is dressing like a 1920s Atlantic Cuty quasi-stripper, dressing like a ‘60s pinup and singing about anal is squarely in the mainstream; you’re not satirizing anything when we’ve now seen the twist more than it’s played straight. But. Online clowns can’t opine about what happened to Britney while shouting down those of us who were uncomfortable with Sabrina’s SNL performance. She pranced around in her underwear with a hairbrush microphone in a teen-style bedroom. She sang to the dolls on her vanity. I doubt it was a direct reference to Britney’s Rolling Stone photo spread, but they both play on the same perverse idea. And I wasn’t allowed to push back on the insidious nature of that imagery and how it destroys performers like Britney. No no, it’s empowering to give men what they want and pretend it’s our idea! The internet is fucked. They can’t connect their own dots.
But this is all based on the idea that everyone can and should make public pronouncements to a presumed audience. When people talk about Ariana to people who already agree with them, it’s just making people think they can criticize women if they’re careful about their phrasing.